What I learned DOING IT all Wrong
Since I left my comfortable, secure job of many years to start my own business I have dealt with feeling anxious about things I didn’t know I could be anxious about. There were the usual topics including finances, clients, how to do this and that and of course what am I doing? What caused the anxiety to take on a life of its own was the constant fear of “am I doing it right?” This caused procrastination that resulted in doing everything except what was necessary to move forward. Or I would over analyze and get stuck in the loop of thinking and do nothing. This went on until I decided to try something different.
I turned to my spiritual practices, asking for guidance and learning to trust. This guidance came in the form of teachers, coaches, books, and stepping out of my comfort zone. It was a process and month-by-month I would move forward but I still questioned if I was doing it right? Now you have to remember I did not not really know what “doing it right” was. I spent a lot of time comparing myself to others and trust me that is not helpful. That only made things worse and really sealed the deal that I was not doing it right. I had to learn to truly surrender to the process and allow the Universe to guide me. Gabby Bernstein is right when she says, “when you think you have surrendered surrender some more”.
One day I had lunch with a successful business person who was willing to meet with me to talk about my business. The conversation turned to social media and I explained all the things I was not sure about. During our conversation I quickly learned that there is no right way and no matter what people say is the best thing to do it is truly up to me and what I am comfortable with. It was so liberating to learn that I can “do it all wrong” and it would work for me. There does not have to be a “right” or a “wrong” but just me and what I believe in. I learned that believing in what I am doing and following my inner guidance is much more motivating. I make sure that I spend time each day quietly listening to my inner voice. It is easy to get out of my own way when I focus on being of service instead of worrying about doing it right or wrong. Who knew??????